Independence Day

Posted by on Jul 5, 2013 in Emotion, Mental, Spiritual | 2 comments

The holiday inspired me to ask, what is independence? Funny thing is that I had to wade through lots of answers before I could come to the one that made sense to me.

Independence comes in many forms, financial, physical, mental, emotional, and yes in the form of government. All the forms of independence I came up with have something in common, they are basically a way of manifesting something important to you on your own.

So to me, the simple answer is that independence is being able to make even the smallest choice or decision and carry it out. Having the ability and freedom to do so.


When we are born we are helpless and dependent.

As we age and grow we take more and more steps on our own. Learning to make decisions and choices for ourselves. We go out into life a bit at a time and manifest what matters to us. The tricky part is figuring that out since when we are young and dependent we are also the perfect sponge. We soak up all the expectations, hopes, failures and images from those around us, make them our own so we can fit in and survive while in the fairly helpless state of youth. It is survival and we don’t even realize we are doing it.


How can we figure out what matters to us?

We hear an awful lot about the ‘normal’ people, folks that grow up, go to school, get a job, get married, and have the 2 kids and a dog and a white picket fence. I would like to meet those folks, really I would. Most people I know had jobs early to help the family or to help pay for their school. Some got degrees and no job in their field so they are working a basic job to pay the bills and the debt from college. As for marriage many are on the second or some never married at all. Kids have kids and life goes on.


There is no standard for independence.

What matters to you? What drives you and gives you passion? Our founding fathers were so passionate about living free that they signed a piece of paper that had things gone differently would have meant their death. What in your life means that much to you? You are worth figuring that out.


In honor of the holiday that stands for believing in throwing off the chains that held us back….

I ask you to take a good hard look inside and see what matters to you. Find your chains and what they are keeping you from and decide to fight for your independence.

It is time for you to stand up and be heard. If you want to go for that dream career – go for it! If you want to go back to school – go back! If you want to find a partner – let one in!


I know this all sounds good but really how does one go about it?

Take that first step. Take the defining step and declare your independence on the one thing you really want to stand up for right now. Then keep taking steps. Do you need to research school? Google is your friend. Do you need to get out and be more social? Head out to do something you like and you will meet like-minded people.

Start living your life consciously and for something that fires you up. Difficult days will come along but it is much easier to keep going when you are fueled by what matters to you because it is yours. We give up and get lost when we are following someone else’s dreams and choices. We all need to dig deep and find out what calls to us and then go get it.


Start signing your name on the declaration that is your life.

Start sorting out who you are, what you want and how you want to get it. The American Dream that is shoved at us is usually about the easy way out, which is crap. We like challenge, we like to rise up and kick some ass and say I did that thank you very much. American’s love the underdog, why? Because they are independent and they fight for what they believe in and generally that isn’t an easy law suit over a hot beverage or a lottery ticket.


Happy Independence Day!

It’s time. Look in the mirror and face yourself, start the journey. Dig deep, grab your pen and take the action to start your independence. Boldly sign your declaration of independence from the chains that restrain you from what matters to you.

This is my declaration to you: I coach the Truth Revolution because that is my passion. I believe, with every fiber of my being that the only work that matters is the work that develops the self. The self matters; you matter. You can change the world simply by being exactly who you are. If you aren’t sure, lean on me because I am.



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